Being in the now

Valerie Harper, the actress who played Rhoda Morgenstern on the Mary Tyler Moore Show was recently diagnosed with brain cancer and given three months to live.  “I don’t think of dying, I think of being here now.  If I’m not … Continue reading

Reaching for your biggest life

The riot of new life pushes up from below ground, reaching hungrily for the light.  Spring is here.  Brave and vulnerable, tender green shoots emerge out of the darkness and risk living.  All life is vulnerable.  All life can be … Continue reading

The urge to fix

“Helplessness makes me feel anxious” Charlene said as she twisted the Kleenex between her fingers.  “I just need to be able to fix this.”  By “this”, Charlene referred to her boyfriend’s drinking that had worsened a lot over the past … Continue reading

The biggest freedom you can have

When you think of anxiety you don’t usually think of freedom.  But I’m going to share a secret: the biggest freedom you can have is the ability tofeel anxiety. I know, it sounds crazy, right?  But I promise you that’s … Continue reading

Your soft strong heart

“I refuse to be vulnerable, it just seems weak.”  Sharon sat across from me, arms crossed and shoulders up.  “If I give in to my feelings it won’t change things anyway.”  Her words were not the only thing that was … Continue reading

Intimacy with you

“I feel fenced in or controlled when people try to get close to me.”  “I feel lonely even when I’m with others.” “I’ve been told I’m clingy, jealous or controlling.”  “I’m afraid that if I let someone in they will … Continue reading

A bit rude

It may seem a bit rude to interrupt, yet my daily work with clients is about interrupting.  I interrupt people as they deny or suppress or defend against the truth of what they are experiencing, and invite them to come … Continue reading

To Have and To Hold

The November wind is wailing outside my window, rain hitting the panes with a sloppy rhythm that makes me want to pull my sleeves down over my wrists to keep me warm.  The last time I wrote in this blog … Continue reading

Say Yes to You for More You

You’re running late and there was an accident on the bridge and traffic is delayed and you forgot your cellphone.  All you can do is hunker down and get there as quickly as you can, right?  Actually, wrong. You do … Continue reading

Growing into more you

When people come in my door they are often suffering, in some kind of pain or stuckness, and they are looking for help to feel better.  What they may not know is, they are really looking to grow. The things … Continue reading