Being in the now

Valerie Harper, the actress who played Rhoda Morgenstern on the Mary Tyler Moore Show was recently diagnosed with brain cancer and given three months to live.  “I don’t think of dying, I think of being here now.  If I’m not … Continue reading

It’s your choice

Right this moment you are having an experience.  Your feet are in socks and shoes or they are bare.  That feels like something in the bones and soles of your feet.  You are sitting on something soft or hard, or … Continue reading

Will you love your body back?

Let’s say you are aware you are holding your breath or tapping your feet or biting your lip or rolling your forefinger across your thumb or tightening muscles in your abs or neck or back or butt…  Congratulations!!!  Your awareness … Continue reading

The urge to fix

“Helplessness makes me feel anxious” Charlene said as she twisted the Kleenex between her fingers.  “I just need to be able to fix this.”  By “this”, Charlene referred to her boyfriend’s drinking that had worsened a lot over the past … Continue reading

The biggest freedom you can have

When you think of anxiety you don’t usually think of freedom.  But I’m going to share a secret: the biggest freedom you can have is the ability tofeel anxiety. I know, it sounds crazy, right?  But I promise you that’s … Continue reading

Double Black Diamond Growth

I just skied my first double black diamond run!!!  Yahoo!!  Now, as double blacks go it was probably a gentle one, in that it had no moguls and had been groomed, but it was steep and long and I did … Continue reading

Your soft strong heart

“I refuse to be vulnerable, it just seems weak.”  Sharon sat across from me, arms crossed and shoulders up.  “If I give in to my feelings it won’t change things anyway.”  Her words were not the only thing that was … Continue reading

Christmas gift your body

In this season of gift giving we remember those who have touched us through the year.  We buy and make and wrap thoughtful things as a gesture of care and appreciation.  We take the time to write a card or … Continue reading

Intimacy with you

“I feel fenced in or controlled when people try to get close to me.”  “I feel lonely even when I’m with others.” “I’ve been told I’m clingy, jealous or controlling.”  “I’m afraid that if I let someone in they will … Continue reading

A bit rude

It may seem a bit rude to interrupt, yet my daily work with clients is about interrupting.  I interrupt people as they deny or suppress or defend against the truth of what they are experiencing, and invite them to come … Continue reading