The urge to fix

“Helplessness makes me feel anxious” Charlene said as she twisted the Kleenex between her fingers.  “I just need to be able to fix this.”  By “this”, Charlene referred to her boyfriend’s drinking that had worsened a lot over the past … Continue reading

The biggest freedom you can have

When you think of anxiety you don’t usually think of freedom.  But I’m going to share a secret: the biggest freedom you can have is the ability tofeel anxiety. I know, it sounds crazy, right?  But I promise you that’s … Continue reading

Double Black Diamond Growth

I just skied my first double black diamond run!!!  Yahoo!!  Now, as double blacks go it was probably a gentle one, in that it had no moguls and had been groomed, but it was steep and long and I did … Continue reading

Your soft strong heart

“I refuse to be vulnerable, it just seems weak.”  Sharon sat across from me, arms crossed and shoulders up.  “If I give in to my feelings it won’t change things anyway.”  Her words were not the only thing that was … Continue reading

A bit rude

It may seem a bit rude to interrupt, yet my daily work with clients is about interrupting.  I interrupt people as they deny or suppress or defend against the truth of what they are experiencing, and invite them to come … Continue reading

Finding Freedom

“I feel trapped” she said.  “All I have ever wanted is to be free and here I am stuck in a job I hate and a relationship that isn’t working for me.”  I asked her if she might be willing … Continue reading

Longing and limits

We are all vulnerable. We long for so many things.  And often we can do a great deal toward making those things happen, but we do not 100% determine the outcome.  In the end other forces contribute to whether or … Continue reading

Looking for signs of life

Claire came in down in the dumps and down on herself.  “I give up.  What’s the point?  No matter what I do I just get sabotaged.”  Claire had been working on dropping some winter weight, and had been eating better … Continue reading