It’s your choice

Right this moment you are having an experience.  Your feet are in socks and shoes or they are bare.  That feels like something in the bones and soles of your feet.  You are sitting on something soft or hard, or … Continue reading

Will you love your body back?

Let’s say you are aware you are holding your breath or tapping your feet or biting your lip or rolling your forefinger across your thumb or tightening muscles in your abs or neck or back or butt…  Congratulations!!!  Your awareness … Continue reading

The biggest freedom you can have

When you think of anxiety you don’t usually think of freedom.  But I’m going to share a secret: the biggest freedom you can have is the ability tofeel anxiety. I know, it sounds crazy, right?  But I promise you that’s … Continue reading

Vulnerable loveable you

Vulnerability is the foundational truth and the deepest teacher.  Vulnerability is longing and limits.  We all want things and we all have forces larger than ourselves contributing to whether and how those things happen.  At the intersection of our longing … Continue reading

Intimacy with you

“I feel fenced in or controlled when people try to get close to me.”  “I feel lonely even when I’m with others.” “I’ve been told I’m clingy, jealous or controlling.”  “I’m afraid that if I let someone in they will … Continue reading

A bit rude

It may seem a bit rude to interrupt, yet my daily work with clients is about interrupting.  I interrupt people as they deny or suppress or defend against the truth of what they are experiencing, and invite them to come … Continue reading

Committing to you

Are you holding back?  In this delicious painful vulnerable beautiful human journey, are you all the way in, or in by just a toe? Someone once said to me “I only want to commit to my life just enough to … Continue reading

Hear the Sound of You

Have you listened to yourself lately?  I mean really listened… As we speak we have tonal qualities in our voices.  This is called the “prosody” of the voice and it is what conveys the emotional meaning of what we are … Continue reading