Being in the now

Valerie Harper, the actress who played Rhoda Morgenstern on the Mary Tyler Moore Show was recently diagnosed with brain cancer and given three months to live.  “I don’t think of dying, I think of being here now.  If I’m not … Continue reading

The urge to fix

“Helplessness makes me feel anxious” Charlene said as she twisted the Kleenex between her fingers.  “I just need to be able to fix this.”  By “this”, Charlene referred to her boyfriend’s drinking that had worsened a lot over the past … Continue reading

Your soft strong heart

“I refuse to be vulnerable, it just seems weak.”  Sharon sat across from me, arms crossed and shoulders up.  “If I give in to my feelings it won’t change things anyway.”  Her words were not the only thing that was … Continue reading

You Are The Answer

Like all living things, we are built to grow.  We are meant to become the fullest manifestation of ourselves.  Sometimes when we are quiet, when we are still, we can hear the soft insistent voice within calling us.  Like a … Continue reading

The growth choice

We are wired to survive.  Our brains and bodies are designed to prioritize staying alive over all else.  In situations of danger all our resources are mobilized to fight or flee.  No conscious choice is necessary.  Automatic processes kick into … Continue reading

Finding Freedom

“I feel trapped” she said.  “All I have ever wanted is to be free and here I am stuck in a job I hate and a relationship that isn’t working for me.”  I asked her if she might be willing … Continue reading