The essence of resilience

Resilience is the holy grail of mental health.  It is the ability to bounce back from life’s inevitable setbacks.  It is the foundation for success and the basis for “I can”. But what if the essence of resilience lies in the experience of … Continue reading

It’s your choice

Right this moment you are having an experience.  Your feet are in socks and shoes or they are bare.  That feels like something in the bones and soles of your feet.  You are sitting on something soft or hard, or … Continue reading

Reaching for your biggest life

The riot of new life pushes up from below ground, reaching hungrily for the light.  Spring is here.  Brave and vulnerable, tender green shoots emerge out of the darkness and risk living.  All life is vulnerable.  All life can be … Continue reading

Will you love your body back?

Let’s say you are aware you are holding your breath or tapping your feet or biting your lip or rolling your forefinger across your thumb or tightening muscles in your abs or neck or back or butt…  Congratulations!!!  Your awareness … Continue reading

A basic truth

What you feel is a basic truth.  It is what it is.  Right here and now in your body the sensations and flow of your inner experience is simply a fact.  You did not make it so, it just is. … Continue reading

Double Black Diamond Growth

I just skied my first double black diamond run!!!  Yahoo!!  Now, as double blacks go it was probably a gentle one, in that it had no moguls and had been groomed, but it was steep and long and I did … Continue reading

Your soft strong heart

“I refuse to be vulnerable, it just seems weak.”  Sharon sat across from me, arms crossed and shoulders up.  “If I give in to my feelings it won’t change things anyway.”  Her words were not the only thing that was … Continue reading

Vulnerable loveable you

Vulnerability is the foundational truth and the deepest teacher.  Vulnerability is longing and limits.  We all want things and we all have forces larger than ourselves contributing to whether and how those things happen.  At the intersection of our longing … Continue reading

Christmas gift your body

In this season of gift giving we remember those who have touched us through the year.  We buy and make and wrap thoughtful things as a gesture of care and appreciation.  We take the time to write a card or … Continue reading

Intimacy with you

“I feel fenced in or controlled when people try to get close to me.”  “I feel lonely even when I’m with others.” “I’ve been told I’m clingy, jealous or controlling.”  “I’m afraid that if I let someone in they will … Continue reading