The essence of resilience

Resilience is the holy grail of mental health.  It is the ability to bounce back from life’s inevitable setbacks.  It is the foundation for success and the basis for “I can”. But what if the essence of resilience lies in the experience of … Continue reading

Will you love your body back?

Let’s say you are aware you are holding your breath or tapping your feet or biting your lip or rolling your forefinger across your thumb or tightening muscles in your abs or neck or back or butt…  Congratulations!!!  Your awareness … Continue reading

The urge to fix

“Helplessness makes me feel anxious” Charlene said as she twisted the Kleenex between her fingers.  “I just need to be able to fix this.”  By “this”, Charlene referred to her boyfriend’s drinking that had worsened a lot over the past … Continue reading

A basic truth

What you feel is a basic truth.  It is what it is.  Right here and now in your body the sensations and flow of your inner experience is simply a fact.  You did not make it so, it just is. … Continue reading

The biggest freedom you can have

When you think of anxiety you don’t usually think of freedom.  But I’m going to share a secret: the biggest freedom you can have is the ability tofeel anxiety. I know, it sounds crazy, right?  But I promise you that’s … Continue reading

Double Black Diamond Growth

I just skied my first double black diamond run!!!  Yahoo!!  Now, as double blacks go it was probably a gentle one, in that it had no moguls and had been groomed, but it was steep and long and I did … Continue reading

Knowing We Are Vulnerable

This week’s blog entry is a re-posting of a blog I wrote a few years ago.  It includes video clip from a session about noticing the moment we realize that we are not in control of something that matters to … Continue reading

Vulnerable loveable you

Vulnerability is the foundational truth and the deepest teacher.  Vulnerability is longing and limits.  We all want things and we all have forces larger than ourselves contributing to whether and how those things happen.  At the intersection of our longing … Continue reading

You Are The Answer

Like all living things, we are built to grow.  We are meant to become the fullest manifestation of ourselves.  Sometimes when we are quiet, when we are still, we can hear the soft insistent voice within calling us.  Like a … Continue reading

To Have and To Hold

The November wind is wailing outside my window, rain hitting the panes with a sloppy rhythm that makes me want to pull my sleeves down over my wrists to keep me warm.  The last time I wrote in this blog … Continue reading